Sunday, March 18, 2007

It Takes a Village to Raise a Deaf Kid



Jay Krieger demonstrates how it took a village to raise a kid. Jay introduces his second daughter Sami for a quick bonus, an interview and closes with a brief summary.

39 comments:

IamMine said...

Oh, wow!!!

She's gorgeous, smart, and full of life!!

I loved how you clipped her from that movie and she did the same lines, showing how much she has grown!

Sami, I wish you best of luck at Gallaudet!! :)

:D

Toby Welch said...

Wow! It is nice to know how you show us what village did to her. It is true that children are exposed by village (people).

Sami, hope you do well at Gallaudet University.

IamMine said...

Hey Sami... I just thought of a question.

You were mainstreamed first before going to ISD.

When you mainstreamed, were you able to grasp concepts in English via SEE (which I assume was the school's method), as much as you did at ISD in an ASL environment?

Did you find yourself struggling or working harder or…?

todos la vie said...

Wow, very articulate and warming. I can see how proud you are of her. I like the fact that you respect her as separate. Very endearing.

I have a question for Sami - are there hard of hearing students with you that you hang out with that have similar tastes like you?

Anonymous said...

Can't think of any questions to ask her but I wish her the best of luck at Gallaudet. Sure is exciting to have your whole life in front of you with all the possibilities. Good luck!

mishkazena said...

Aww, Jay, what a touching vlog, especially the one with her as a child. She is very articulate and beautiful. Your pride for her comes through the vlog. :)

I don't have any question, but I hope she will enjoy her time at Gallaudet.

Oscar Chacon said...

Wow, how touching!
Sami, good luck at Galladuet.

Interesting how dad tend to be layback type in signing while his daughter signs rapidfire! COOL!
Again, good luck and I am curious to answers to IamMine and that other woman questions too.

Dragon 21 said...

I love her smile! It lightened me up! Yes, it takes a village to raise Sami and other Deaf children.
Sami keep smile! ;oD

Dragon 21 said...

I forgot one more...
Sami, wish you good luck at Gallaudet!

Anonymous said...

You know, that brief signing scene is the only reason I bought the second Miracle on 34th Street. Sign language is so cool.

-- Kate

Anonymous said...

What an inspiration your vlog is. A proud father interviewing her lovely, intelligent daughter. Touched my heart! I look forward to your interview with her when she graduates from Gallaudet University!

Julie Rems-Smario

Anonymous said...

It's nice to see a father doing the interview with a daughter because of her growing up experience with mainstream and institute schools.

One question that I like to inquire Sami: When you transferred to ISD, was the transition smooth or bumpy that disspiated after going thru adaptation process?

A question for Jay: You saw Sami through many things especially with possessing ASL skills and also speech skills, all those skills that an older deaf/hoh adult probably wouldn't have due to different path taken thru the "village"....Do you, Jay, felt you could have taken the same route thru the "village" that Sami did if your own parents had received better information on how to raise deaf/hoh children? I know you have deaf siblings and wonder how well they are doing in today's society? Oops, a long question, smile!

Anonymous said...

Jay,

You made me cry. Not sure why. Glad you show your daughter from past and present. Very cool!

Sami,

Study and enjoy your life at Gallaudet University.

Todd said...

Interesting vlog! I wish Sami the best in her future. I'm sure the Gallaudet experience will be very rewarding and enriching for her on so many levels.

I find it interesting that you touched on this 'circle' where Sami could potentially return back to her alma mater and teach English. Currently, I'm teaching at the very same elementary school I myself attended in the 1970's.

Believe me, it has been very rewarding and enriching experience for me personally, connecting with yet another generation of Deaf students at the very same school I studied in. I truly and sincerely hope that the circle continues, when one or more of my students go onto working with other Deaf generations not yet born.

I really don't have a lot of questions; Would Sami consider undertaking the Honors English regimen at Gallaudet? One of the perks of being in the Honors program is accessing a shabbily outfitted student lounge, a luxury I never had! :)

Sami, what do you think about your father being a prolific vlogger in the Deaf community? (Don't give me that teenage spiel about being embarrassed of your parents, while secretly being their biggest admirer!) :)

I have never met or even heard of him until he started popping up on DeafRead, and have truly developed an immense respect and geniune appreciation for the contributions he has given to Deaf discourse percolating here at DeafBlogLand.

Best,

Anonymous said...

Jay,

First, thank you for sharing Sami with us. She is lovely and smart and confident. You must feel very proud as her father.

Second, thank you for sharing this with your viewers. It shows what positive results we have with our deaf youth when they are supported by the community (or village). It gives hope.

I love your messages.

~ LaRonda
www.earofmyheart.com

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Anonymous said...

Jay,

Sweet and heartwarming...

I wish Sami all the best... And of course her two sisters, as well! :-)

Sami, I have a question for you. Your audiogram may say you are hard of hearing. How do you identify yourself? Deaf or Hard of Hearing?

Curious here... :-)

Anonymous said...

A big awwww here! It's very apparent that you are very proud of your daughter Sami! Best of luck to Sami although I'm sure she will do just fine.

And yes you are right - it takes a village!

drmzz said...

Sweet. They grow up too fast. My daughter is in tenth grade. Indeed, everything and everyone in her developmental niche contribute.

Thanks for sharing and good luck in future Sami!

mochame said...

Sami: Study Harder for your higher education at Gallaudet then You will deserve be successful teacher. You are smart, beautiful. May the best luck of your future.

Anonymous said...

sami...
Got couple of questions for you... If you start all over when you are young how would you do different?
Like wish to stay in mainstream little longer or wish never enroll mainstreaming program at all?
Secondly, whos your favorite music group if you do listen one?

C-

Karen Mayes said...

Sami, it is nice seeing you again... I met you once or twice when the bus dropped off my son (4th grade, now mainstreamed) and daughter (kindergarten) at my apartment. It is good to know that ISD has been very GOOD to you... I feel good knowing that my daughter is in good hands. My son who is an auditory learner is more comfortable in the mainstream for now... the question is for how long, since I know that he would benefit from having an access to the visual language. Do you know any deaf people who decided to go mainstreaming (full time or part time, from ISD) at either elementary, middle, or/and high school years and if so, how did they fare? I just want to have a good idea of what to expect from my son (he chose mainstreaming over deaf schools, to fit his communication needs and I had to respect his wishes.)

Sami, I hope you woud find a moment or two to answer my question and other commenters' questions :)

Best luck!

Anonymous said...

Jay,

Your vLog is POWERFUL. You are selfishness, and remind us that it takes a village to raise a child, and for us not to forget to reduce our ego and accept the responsibilities for our future children.
Its tingling and aspiring what you did sharing with us.
I always enjoy your vLogs because I feel spiritual kinship with your thoughts and ideas.
Thank you again, Jay.

ASL Forever.

Anonymous said...

Iammine-To be honest, I don't really remember completely what it was like in the deaf program at Parkwood School (the hearing school I went to). In preschool, I signed too well, so they had to move me into Kindergarten. So I was too little to know any better.

todos la vie-Yes, there are many HoH students at ISD, but I am not particular about who I hang out with :)

Wacky Taz-No, for me, the transfer was not that difficult. I have Deaf parents whom I sign with very well, so ISD was just like home for me.

Todd-I haven't decided whether I want to join the Honors English class yet, as I heard that it wasn't that great of a class at Gallaudet. As for my dad being a Vlogger, I no longer have a identity-I'm Jay Krieger's daugther right now. :) no longer Sami. haha, but I do enjoy watching him :)

sda-Either way. I mostly identify myself as Deaf, though.

Susan-Yes, I will want to teach at a Deaf school.

Anonymous 3:43-I would probably have gone to ISD in the first place, not to the mainstream school. Everyone at ISD grew up together thru the Preschool to Senior, and I sort of missed out on that early start. Not a big factor though. Would have been a factor if I had transferred when I was in 7th grade. Favorite Music group-tooooo many to name :) right now-Christina Aguilera

Deaf Niches-Yes, there was one girl who went through elementary with us, then transferred to Carmel MS. She came back part time in my 8th grade and sophomore year, but she seemed to be happier in her hearing school. So really, it depends on the person, prefer deaf or hearing school. However, she supposedly gets good grades, but when she visited ISD, she didn't know the answers in our classes, so it seems that the interpreter helps her more than necessary, so successful or not?

Thank you for watching this VLog and for all of your thoughtful questions. Feel free to ask any more questions if you have any. :)
--Sami

Anonymous said...

Gee whiz, it is a terrific idea how you put Sami in your Vlog...an good example for everyone to see how you did with your three lovely daughters.
I wouldnt be surprised if you interviewing your Coda daughter, Wanda. Then your next step with your mother on how she raised you Jay when you was little and born to a deaf family as well. Sami, Loads of luck for being future Gally's student and enjoy every moment there. You will be near your sister Amanda and you will immidate feel comfortable at Gally at your freshman stay there. Hope to meet you and your rapid signs will go slower for everyone to understand you because there will be many vary students who are not fast signers like yours. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Jay!

Why don't you send your own resume for BoT at Gallaudet before you will need to protect and raise your own daughter's higher level education at Gallaudet!!???

You will be great person to be on the BoT at Gallaudet University to build up more villages to raise Deaf kids!

SKE

IamMine said...

Hey, Sami - thanks for taking the time to write back to us!

I see you also got sense of humor from your dad! *grins*

Perhaps it is a good thing you couldn't remember too much about the "hearing-impaired" program (at least that's what they called it in my time - shhh, don't dare to ask how old I am!) because how could you want to remember those hearing aid bras!! :D

I also want to applaud you for knowing what you would like to study in and planning your future - even though it may change and that's OKAY!

But point is, you've thought about it and too many kids are undetermined and apathetic about their future and life these days.

I also want to thank you for sharing your experiences because it is extremely important that we can show proof from deaf/hoh children themselves telling their side of stories – not audiologists, doctors, researchers, etc.

Do you have classmates who wear cochlear implants? I’m just curious how they are viewed by other students? Are they considered deaf to others? Is there a peer pressure for them to reject wearing their CIs or is it viewed just like hearing aids? Also, how are their, in your perspective, attitudes towards other deaf people of their peer? Do they still use ASL?

I’m asking those questions because I think it’s important that we understand how deaf/hoh children of different backgrounds view each other and hopefully embrace each other, no matter what.

I’ll hush up but…in closing, see if you can get your too-humble dad to apply for a position on BoT. Many of us think he can do a lot more contribution to the Deaf Education at that level!

Thanks again, Sami! :)

Karen Mayes said...

Thanks for responding! I showed the vlog of you and your dad to my son and he said he remembered you from the bus, and that you sang very nicely and wished you best luck in Gallaudet. :)

Yup, I will keep an eye on his progress in his journey in mainstreaming world. He knows that he could always go back to ISD, but he wants to check out the mainstreaming for now... part of his exploration of his identity.

Good luck!

Unknown said...

Jay,

Awwww....your vlog with your daughter Sami is incredibly touching and it made me cry!!! Loved the past and present clips about Sami with the Santa!

Sami -- best of luck at Gallaudet!!!!

Ginny

Anonymous said...

When I first saw the title, "It Takes a Village to Raise a Deaf Kid"...
That reminded me of a controversial book written by Hilary Clinton, our former First Lady.
I would like to begin by focusing on the title of her book, "It Takes a Village."
The title comes from an African proverb which states that "It takes a village to raise a child." This oft- repeated African proverb has become the mantra of recent international women's conferences (Cairo, Beijing). I believe it represents the new paradigm of feminist and socialist thinking.
At its face, there is nothing controversial about the idea that it takes more than parents to raise a child. Grandparents, friends, pastors, teachers, and many others in the community (our village) all have a role in the lives of our children.
In her book, Hilary Clinton does acknowledge that "parents bear the first and primary responsibility for their sons and daughters."
So, Jay...you were responsible greatly of what Sami had becoming.
Keep up good work.

Anonymous said...

Hey Jay,

I don't know you and Sami but when I watched you putting your arm around Sami. The tears were rolling down my cheeks. I know you are proud of your daughter who was once a little girl and now is a very young lady. Pretty soon, she will be out of your wing. I have two young children. I would hate very much letting my children go. I want them to stay with me forever. HA! They are my babies forever.

Love your children!

Anonymous said...

Very touching vlog!

Sami, wish you good luck at Gallaudet!

Anonymous said...

Aw, everyone is so proud of sami :) my semi-big sister hah! have fun at college next year!

Wanda

mule4350 said...

Awesome I think that it always be diversity of HOH which chose over DEAF or Hearing in the world and SAMI have chose to GALLY as Wonderful and has cherish to teach all deaf childen at school in the future. I noticve Sami used ASL without speak as I appericate it as well

SAy Good Luck Sami in the future....

Anonymous said...

IAmMine-Yes, I sure do not want to remember those hearing-aid bras, as you so conveniently called it :)

Yes, one boy in my senior class has a cochlear implant. They are treated pretty much the same in ISD, it is considered pretty much like hearing aids. In my opinion, they tend to use their voice a lot more when they are around hearing teachers or HoH students, because they are aware of the fact that they are capable of hearing. So, they are the same as us, but yet not the same.

--Sami

Anonymous said...

Awww dont you just love that pixes with Santa! I am glad that I had the opporunity to watch you with Santa there! Green looks good on you! teehee xo xo Mom

Dustin said...

Jay and Sami,

Sami has gone through the same experience I had when I was in Elementary, Middle, and High School. I mainstreamed in 8 years of 13 Educational Years.

I attended Kindergarten to 5th grade at a mainstreamed school, some schools with deaf programs, some without deaf programs, but with interpreter. And for 6th and 7th Grade I attended LSD, (Louisiana), and for 8th and 9th grade I went to a school without deaf program, and I was just being the only deaf student at a large school. Also for the Final 3 years of my High School, I went back to LSD, and completed my high school degree. And I did taste Louisiana State University, Agriculture and Mechanical here in Baton Rouge, for one semester back in 2001, I did not like it, because I was not used to the environment, it was a huge university, and I decided stop going to school for 7 years, And about 2 months ago I finally decided to go to Gallaudet. I will go to Gallaudet in the Fall of 2007. So maybe I'll see you (Sami) around at Gallaudet. If you want me to discuss you more about my experience being predominately mainstreamed, I would be glad to share some of my experiences.

Anonymous said...

BRAVO JAY! THANK FOR MAKING ME UNDY WHAT "IT TAKE A VILLAGE TO RAISE A DEAF CHILD" ALL ABOUT OH I TRULY LOVE THE LITTLE GIRL SAMMI TO THE PRESENT SAMMI GREAT VLOG! AGAIN BRAVO JAY!

Anonymous said...

wowowow cuuuute! Loved the clips of Sami now and before!

What song is she signing here? What's it called? Is it a children´s song?